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Individuation,
Assertiveness and Conflicts
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Individuation, assertiveness and
conflicts can be healthy when they are born of a need to
grow. As adults, we need to assert individual differences and
individual rights as part of our individuation process, just as a
two-year-old children need to do.
When we push and test to discover limits
and exercise our ability to say no during external conflicts,
we are not creating dysfunctional conflict. Rather we are
giving birth to ourselves as more independent and
powerful.
But that process, so normal and natural
to two year olds, can be uncertain. Each time we need to
assert our individual rights we face dealing with
conflict. But being assertive is central to becoming more
independent and thinking for ourselves.
When we become acutely aware of issues
involving resistance, compliance and rebellion, as well as
contrariness and control, assertive behavior is the next
step.
Here's how one woman put it, "I know I
need to become more independent because I'm repeatedly finding
things wrong. " At age 54, she was discovering that her need to
be more independent meant reclaiming territory others had tried
to take away.
And the first people to notice her
new-found assertiveness were her family members - her husband
and children. "I'd been thinking so much about them and
their needs that I hadn't left any time to think about me," she
said.
"Eventually I started getting really
angry and we were pushing each other emotionally. Still I
think they're happy I'm learning to say
no.
Later as she gained more confidence in
her independence, she took on the authorities at work about a
company policy. The higher-ups didn't like it at first,
but eventually they ended up thanking her, because her
willingness to hang in there and maintain her position in the
face of their opposition saved the company a huge
lawsuit.
Developing new levels of healthy autonomy
is not always a comfortable process, and one that's often not
supported by cultures, especially authoritarian ones which operate
to pressure individuals into accepting limitations on their
personal power. If we accept that, however, we enter a destructive
process in which we lose our dreams ,our hope and become
dispirited.
How can you handle the process of
individuation so it results in victory rather than
disaster? To support you in learning how to carry out
this process in healthy ways, raising your own emotional
intelligence and living a fuller life in the process, I teach
the Emotional Development 101, ten,
one hour, once a week online classes starting as soon as you
register.
This aspect of life is so important that
we devote an entire class to it plus address it as a theme in
every other class.
Click the link to view the entire class
outline and further details.
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"Communication is a continual balancing act, juggling the conflicting
needs for intimacy and independence.
To survive
in the world, we have to act in concert
with
others, but to survive as ourselves,
rather than
simply as cogs in a wheel,
we have to
act alone."
Deborah
Tannen, Sociologist
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Do you know how to:
* Take care of your emotional health and live an
emotionally healthy life?
* Raise your own EQ (Emotional
Intelligence)?
* Decide what emotional tasks to carry out to
address physical symptoms when you experience them?
In 10 one-hour online classes, one week apart, you will learn how
to addresses all these questions and more. Full course outline and
other details at
To save 25%, register before Aug. 30th, 2011
Feel free to forward this to others so they can have greater health
and well being too!
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The emotional brain responds to an event
more quickly than the thinking
brain.
Daniel Goleman,
Ph.D.
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Can You Answer
These Questions?
Who are we really
and what is the nature of the life process we
undergo?
What parts of us
do we continue to grow only through non-verbal or primary
process as opposed to the verbal or secondary processes we
typically employ as adults?
Are there
differences between our developmental process in childhood and
in adulthood, and if so what are they? For healthy
growth, which do we need to have remain the same and which do
we need to have be different?
If you don't know
the answer to these questions, you will by the end of the first
three classes of the Emotional Development 101.
More information
here.
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A BetterHealthBytes
Feature:
INFORMED VACCINE
CHOICES
Receiving a vaccination may now
mean getting injected with tissues from another human being because some
vaccines currently include various fetal cell lines from aborted fetuses, human
albumen, genetically engineered human albumen and human
DNA.
Some people object to this on the
face of it - being injected with human fetal tissue in the first place.
Others' protests are based on science, for example, the spike in autism rates when
the chicken pox vaccine began containing fetal tissue. Then there are the unknown
consequences such as the risk of allergic reactions and autoimmune diseases, and of
course, objections based on religios grounds.
The number of vaccines estimated to
contain these human cells varies depending on both the source and the number of
vaccines taken into account. One estimate suggests that 23 vaccines currently
on the market contain these cells. (For example, one list of human tissues used in
some vaccines can be found here:
http://www.vaccine-tlc.org/human.html).
The following list is offered to
support informed choice. These vaccines do contain human tissue of one sort
or another:
Polio: PolioVax, Pentacel, DT Polio Absorbed, Quadracel
(Sanofi)
Measles, Mumps, Rubella: MMR
II, Meruvax II, MRVax, Biovax, ProQuad, MMR-V (Merck) Priorix, Erolalix
(GlaxoSmithKline)
Varicella (Chickenpox and
Shingles): Varivax, ProQuad, MMR-V, Zostavax (Merck)
Varilix (GlaxoSmithKline)
Hepatitis A: Vaqta (Merck),
Havrix, Twinrix (GlaxoSmithKine), Avaxim, Vivaxim , Sanofi), Epaxal
(Crucell/Berna)
Rabies: Imovax
(Sanofi)
OTHER INGREDIENTS FOUND IN SOME
VACCINES
A listing of all the various
ingredients in vaccines is not possible to acquire. That's because of two
main reasons.
The first is that manufacturers
are not required to report certain ingredients if they exist below a certain
threshold. For example, the cumulative neuro-toxin mercury, contained in
Thimerisol which is currently an ingredient in the flu shot, is not required to
be reported if below the legal threshold.
The other reason is that due to
poor checks and balances in the manufacturing process, vaccines may have many
contaminants that were not intended to be included in their manufacture, such
as other bacteria, for example, a fact some former industry insiders continue
to report.
Here, then, is a partial list of
some other ingredients found in vaccines:
formaldehyde, thimerosal,
polysorbate 80 (Tween-80), ammonium sulfate, formalin,sucrose, lactose, washed
sheep red blood cells, continuous line of monkey kidney cells, neomycin, sorbitol,
benzethonium chloride, ammonium sulfate, glycerin, a phenol-a compound from coal
tar, beta-propiolactone, phosphate buffered saline, 2-phenoxyethenol, soy
protein, yeast, sucrose, monosodium glutamate (MSG), aspartame,
polydimethylsiloxane (silicone), processed gelatin, fetal bovine serum, guinea pig
embryo cells, chick embryo, vesicle fluid from calf skins, rhesus monkey fetal
diploid cells, bovine fetal serum, rhesus monkey fetal lung cells, bovine
gelatin, serum "from source countries known to be free of bovine spongioform
encephalopathy," chicken protein, bovine serum, hydrolized gelatin, chicken
embryo, continuous line of monkey kidney cells.
To find out which ingredients are
in any particular vaccine, one way is to go to:
HOW TO GET MORE
INFORMATION
As the saying goes,
information is power. The better informed you are the better the
choices you will be able to make for you and for those dependent on you for
their care.
An excellent source of information
about vaccines can be found in the package inserts. That said, there are
some ingredients that the law does not require to be reported or taken into
account if they are below a certain threshold, so even reading the inserts will
not tell you everything.
Then, too, it would take a lot of
effort to collect and review them all. Happily this job has been taken on
and placed online for you.
If you'd like
to review some vaccine package inserts,
click:
"If vaccines are safe and
effective for everyone, then those, who choose to get vaccinated should have
nothing to fear from those who choose not to get
vaccinated.
If vaccines are not safe and
effective for everyone, then it is unethical to require anyone to get
vaccinated without their voluntary, informed consent."
Barbara Loe Fisher,
National Vaccine
Information Center
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